Exposing The Male Dancer Guidelines For Social Media Promotion Part One: Make Two Separate Accounts

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Lately I've seen a few missteps in male dancers promoting themselves on social media. It hasn't been anything world shattering, but maybe I can help to steer the sexy boys in a better direction for a more successful outcome. With this blog I start a series for Exposing The Male Dancer. We're talking about the right kind of exposure, or promotion. I'll discuss promotion tips and post several exposing photos. Let me know if you agree with this blog in a comment below, or a Facebook message or an email. Please pass this blog on to every exotic male dancer you know. I feel it is important enough for all to read!

Why do I think I can help? This September will mark 13 years that I have been in the promotion and entertainment photography business. I spend a minimum of two hours every day reading and posting to social media for the purpose of promoting male dancers, clubs and events that feature them, photographers that feature them, underwear and costumes that look great on them, and much more. I assist male dancers in obtaining gigs, consult with bar owners and managers, hire male dancers for events, and have developed great business relationships and friendships along the way. I am therefore qualified to write this blog giving a few pointers to exotic male dancers about promoting themselves in social media.

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For every social media that a male dancer desires to be active in, two separate accounts should be created and maintained. Always keep them separate, both in posts and in friends you add. The two accounts are for the purpose of keeping the professional and the personal separated. Why? I'm glad you asked. First, I'll list below the things that as a customer/fan, I should NOT see and read. Then second, I'll list the items that I should see and read. For the customers/fans that are reading this blog, I have some suggestions for you as well, at the end.

A Fan/Customer SHOULD NOT see and read the following: The customer/fan should not read about your emotional roller coaster as you post your daily, weekly or monthly feelings. A customer/fan should not observe your pity party because your roommate, family, or friend butt hurt you and did blah, blah, blah. Your personal relationships are none of the customer/fan's business. A customer/fan should not have to read about your personal drama. A customer/fan should never know when another stripper, club management, show director, drag queen, a customer, etc., has pissed you off. You may think it is soulless, but a customer/fan should not know when you need prayer or good thoughts sent your way. The customer/fan is not your therapist, your priest, your gofundme source, etc. The above should give you an idea of what should not be in your professional social media account.

A Fan/Customer SHOULD see or read the following: Sexy photos of you to promote your male stripper gigs and opportunities. I of course, recommend professional photos by a photographer with a great reputation and good eye. Sexy photos of you performing at clubs and events. Video clips of you performing at clubs and events. Live broadcast of you performing at clubs and events. Dates and locations for your personal appearances. Informing club managers/show directors that you are available for gigs. Upcoming events such as a special club appearance, photo shoot, or other job related activity. Teaser posts - such as "I will be wearing the new underwear I bought at tonight's show. Come check it out." Promote other dancers, entertainers, bartenders, DJs, etc., but not too heavily. Keep it mostly about you. Requests for rides, assistance in making costumes, where to buy great underwear, etc., are all acceptable as well. Keep these posts related to your occupation as an exotic male dancer. Add only friends that are associated with the business. There may be some overlap with your personal account but keep it to a minimum.

The Personal Account Add only close friends and family. There may be some overlap with business account but keep it to a minimum. Post whatever the hell you want.

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Why are two separate social media accounts important? As an exotic male dancer, you are playing a roll in a fantasy for the customer/fan. When that fantasy is maintained, they will come to the club or event where you are performing with it in their mind. You want to help them to maintain this fantasy. They want to be entertained. They are also coming to a club or event to escape real life for a few hours. Your personal life is not a part of the fantasy, and is often a turn off to any potential new customer and to many existing customers. They don't want to read about your problem with relationships, roommates, finances, etc. They have enough of that of their own. Please don't drag them in to your drama. This is solid advice for your online promotion and when performing at a club or event where you speak with them face-to-face.

Also, many male dancers will add their employers as friends on their social media accounts. So, any drama that goes on with you is known by your employer. Your employer only needs to know that you are at work when scheduled and on time, and that you are performing at your best while there.

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To the customer/fan I give a gentle warning. I love the pretty dancing boys as much as anyone. Although there are many who are professional and ethical in their dealings with others, there are some of them who are not so pretty inside. The game that goes on between male strippers and the customer is total manipulation, where both are seeking something. It is fair because it is an exchange. The customer/fan wants entertainment from a hot, sexy male dancer. The male dancer is trying to pay his bills, buy something new or save for some future goal.

But some male dancers take the game beyond where it should go. They are masters at manipulation and will try to work you for some type of gain, usually money through dishonesty, etc. I have seen posts from male dancers who posts using the poverty card and talk about how poor they are in an attempt to have someone feel sorry for them and help out. And yet, a few paragraphs previous they were talking about how drunk they got going out with friends. Ok, so maybe the friends bought the drinks, but if they are so down on their luck, shouldn't they ask the friend to help them with food, bills, or other expenses instead? And be careful of those who use the Wimpy, from Popeye, approach. Wimpy always said, "I'll gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today." But Tuesday never comes. I called this a gentle warning because, hey, after all, it is your money, and you can choose to spend it however you like.

Photo Source: Michael Hill Digital

To the male dancer I also give a gentle warning. It is much safer and wiser to keep your personal information locked safely away. Two separate accounts can help do this. There are customers/fans who may become obsessive and could possibly be a bit unstable. You do not want these people to have your personal information. They do not need to know where you live or who your close friends are. If you work at a second job, they do not need to know where that job is located. You do not want some of these people showing up at your place of work. Some customers/fans can become infatuated with a dancer and be completely annoying or even to the point of becoming a stalker. Now, I know there aren't a lot of this type around but it is always better to be safe, particularly when there is no real reason to share your personal information with everyone.

When two accounts are created in social media, there are fewer opportunities for abuse by either the customer/fan or the male dancer. Until next time, dancers, strippers, go-go's, etc., create that second social media account. And as always, customers and fans, don't forget to tip the boys!

Click here and read Part Two: Five Photo Tips For Exotic Male Dancers!

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Our Favorite Hot Ass, Smart Ass! Bryce Eden Adonis Adonis At Fubar ~ Los Angeles, CA

Males In Motion Welcomes Guest Blogger: Bryce Adonis

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What's up Males In Motion readers? I'm known as Bryce Adonis and I've danced all over New England, including Connecticut, Massachusetts, Rhode Island, as well as NYC, LA and Miami for almost 5 years, traveling around to make money to pay for my child support and porn collection. This is my 1st attempt at a blog which I am stoked to share with you. I'm very fortunate that Michael Hill and I have become friends through Facebook, so I hope he values my views on my every day life as a stripper on the road. I had the amazing opportunity to spend 2 weeks at Adonis LA at Fubar for Pride this year and while it was a blast, I'm still busy counting my STD's.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

As you enter Fubar, you will receive a warm welcome from the door staff. You'll then walk in to find a fully stocked bar that spans the length of the club to your left, and seating along the right-hand side. The color scheme is exactly what you would expect, dark. The walls are decorated with posters of the sexy studs that you may bump into throughout the evening and the lighting is perfectly positioned to enhance your viewing pleasure. At the end of the club there is an elevated stage, where you can watch the constant supply of dancers rotate throughout the night from any seat in the bar. To the left of the stage in the way back, hang long black curtains from ceiling to floor which separates the private lap dance room, which has several extremely plush couches. Hosting the show you will find the charismatic, muscle bound Matt de Iturriaga, who once was a stripper but has worked his way up the ranks to now run and MC the show.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

As a dancer I found Adonis had some of the most generous tippers that I have come across in the city. While I was there, I seemed to run into customers that would drop $40-$80 (2-4 songs) per sitting. I've been known to be called a wild child. However, with LA's clean image, I found it hard to fulfill that reputation. The dancing room is constantly monitored by Elliott that enforces LA's strict guidelines. For the beautiful men here, it didn't seem to be an issue making money. However, for an aging, mediocre stripper such as myself, it proved to be difficult to stay competitive with the fierce budding actors, fitness models and local meatheads.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

Every week Matt does an amazing job finding new headliners to star in the show, which typically includes porn stars and social media celebrities to grace his stage, such as Ryan Rose, Jaxton Wheeler, JJ Knight, Ricky Roman, Nick Capra, Damon Danilo, Marco Corleone and Tom Faulk.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

But most recently to help celebrate the 3rd Birthday of Adonis LA, Matt flew in Bryan Hawn, who is a published author and YouTube celebrity. And if you don't know who he is then where have you been hiding!? He's currently the hottest thing on social media right now and has over 400,000 followers on Facebook and when you see his rock hard bubble butt, you'll see exactly why he has been making men melt all across the nation. I had the pleasure of working with him at Adonis NYC for this years Pride parade. He is genuinely one of the sweetest guys I've met in the industry and his smile could make a straight guy leave his wife. If you want to see just how fun he can be then scope him on the Adonis Lounge NYC Pride Video.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

What I found intriguing whilst working at Adonis was the cast of characters who returned weekly to pack the line-up. One guy in particular that I spent a lot of time with was ex porn star Tyson Riggs (in pic above). While he may appear to be your typical dumb jock. I was shocked to discover how intelligent and knowledgeable he was about optimizing muscle growth as well as human anatomy. When on stage he carries a resting bitch face but when you see him dance, his moves will have you smiling from ear to ear. I challenge you to find an ounce of fat on his shredded body and he's so vascular that even a nurse in training could prick him with their eyes shut!

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

Last but not least, one of my fav's and personal buddy of mine is Philly native Mikey, who is tough to miss with his blonde hair, blue eyes, chiseled jaw and flawless physique. What I love about this guy is that it seems there isn't a single dancer that he doesn't have a bromance with. Not to mention the masculine and fun loving energy that he brings to the party, making the most feminine guy feel like he has just been injected with testosterone. While I was in the lap dancing area, I lost count of how many times I heard him utter the word "bro" and when your done having a dance with him you'll feel like you've just grabbed a beer with one of your best buds.

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

While this was only my second time working in LA, the team made me feel like I have danced here for years and part of the Adonis LA family. I can't wait to plan my next trip to get back and see my West Coast #cockwatcherz, but in the meantime, make sure you visit the men and stuff an extra dollar or two in their shorts for me.

Links and info for this blog: Adonis LA, Fubar 7994 Santa Monica Blvd West Hollywood, CA 90046 Open Sundays and Wednesdays 10pm-2am Adonis Lounge Website Adonis Lounge Facebook Page Fubar LA Website Bryce Adonis Facebook Page Bryan Hawn Facebook Page

Thanks Bryce for sharing your experiences with us! I look forward to getting to enjoy an Adonis Lounge event! I've added a pic of you below. Thanks to Joe Manetti. And I snagged this from your Facebook photo album where I saw several others I liked as well. And if anyone wants to see more of Bryce, click here and read a blog I wrote back in 2013 featuring his sexy self. ~ Mike

Photo Source: Bryce Adonis

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Naked Boys And Imo's Pizza A Summer Stop At Boxers-N-Briefs

Photo Source: Caleb Frost Facebook

When I am anywhere in the vicinity of St. Louis, there are two things that are going to happen. First, I'm going to order an Imo's pizza. Second, I'm going to visit Boxers-N-Briefs. It's the perfect combination. I always order the meat lovers, and then for pizza... ***wink***, I order the all meat. (Drum sound in background... BAH DAH BUM ...CHHHHH!)

So, on a recent weekend, my partner and I found ourselves near St. Louis and after eating the Imo's pizza, we stopped in at Boxers-N-Briefs, across the Mississippi River from St. Louis, and located in Centreville, IL. As we walked in the door, it was great to see some dancers that I already knew from previous visits, like Caleb and Kameron. We stopped at the bar and paid the $10 cover and I purchased a crown and coke ($8.00), tipped the bartender. Jay got a bud light ($6.00). We then found a seat in front of the bar.

The boys rotated dancing on the bar two or three at a time. Several customers were seated around the bar and tipped while watching their favorites swing on the poles, and strip out of their underwear. We sat and watched a while and enjoyed our drinks. Since the dancers are naked much of the time while dancing on the bar, they wear white socks, so the customers have a location to place their tips.

It was very, very nice to be away from home for the weekend, and to sit back, relax, have a few drinks and watch naked boys. We both had a few favorites from the night. Brantley wore a cowboy hat part of the night so he captured my attention immediately. He has a nice small frame muscular body with an amazing ass. There was a small group of females that were obviously enjoying his attention as well.

Another dancer with a nice body was Mike. He sat and talked with us several times throughout our visit. Thanks Mike, you helped make the night very enjoyable. He wasn't on the schedule for the night for dancing, but did a great job serving as a host, and making us feel welcome. Caleb and Kameron, thanks you two, you always bring a smile to my face and make my night.

I especially enjoyed watching Gray. He had a nice body and was very entertaining while dancing on the bar. Many of the other customers must have felt the same. He was a very popular dancer and stayed busy receiving tips from appreciative fans.

We started our night out around 10:00pm on a Saturday. By midnight, more customers and more dancers had arrived. My recommendations for visiting Boxers-N-Briefs: Sit at the bar. You'll have a front row seat to all the dancers as they go through their rotations. That is where most of the regulars sit. Also, if you see a favorite that you like and want a private dance, just let them know. They will go with you to the bartender where you'll pay and receive a timer. Then you'll be taken to a private area. Enjoy!

When you visit Boxers-N-Briefs, tell them Mike from Males In Motion says hi. And while in the St. Louis area, be sure and try an Imo's pizza. They are not a sponsor, and I'm not receiving any compensation for mentioning their name. I just love their pizza. And I love the boys at Boxers-N-Briefs. Until next time, stuff those white socks full of dollars. Click the pic above to visit their Facebook page.

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