Photo Source: Snagged From The Internet
The Tip Jar can be found in a multitude of businesses in the U.S. First and foremost for me is that of the bartender. You'll usually find a glass cylinder, or sometimes an actual jar. From my past I can remember seeing the gallon size glass pickle jars serving as tip jars in some diners. When made of clear glass (as many are), it can serve as a subtle reminder to the current customer to give a tip and say thanks to the bartender for services rendered. And when cash is already present in said container, it can provide a psychological nudge to a customer showing that others have already given tips.
Photo Source: Males In Motion
I always tip. It's just something I like to do. I'm sure part of that comes from my being a valet parker at a country club when I was in college. I understand those who work for tip money and I know how most of them appreciate it. I've also watched how hard these folks work on busy nights.
Photo Source: Beaux - San Francisco, CA
I'll admit there is also an ulterior motive for tipping. If I tip a bartender well on a regular basis, that bartender will remember me. This most often results in future dirty martinis being made exactly the way I like. A good bartender will remember a good tipper. And will memorize exactly how a good tipper likes their favorite cocktails. I also know that when I bring friends to the bar, the bartender will take good care of them.
Photo Source: Neighbours Nightclub & Lounge - Seattle, WA
What do I get out of it? That is the question everyone asks when any type of exchange is made. It is human nature. If you don't believe me, ask someone to do a favor for you. They will want something in exchange. Even if they are close friends. A close friend may automatically help you out because they have a history with you. You have helped them and they have helped you. If exchanges within a relationship remain one-sided, there will come a time when the party who is always giving will once again ask the question, "What do I get out of it?" If the answer is nothing, there will be no more one-sided exchanges, and it could result in the termination of that relationship. No one likes to feel used.
Photo Source: Male Dancer: Trey ~ Columbus, OH
So, how does this translate into the world of the exotic male dancer? The male dancer may be performing for a variety of reasons. One major reason for most, is to make money. Tipping is their main source of income in this profession. They may or may not receive a base pay from the employer. And in some cases, they may be paying the house a fee for the opportunity to dance.
Photo Source: X-Room at Mardi Gras ~ Springfield, MA
In the exchange between customer and male dancer, I personally am looking for a couple of things: First, I want some attention from a hot, sexy, piece of eye candy. Yes, that is shallow but hey this form of entertainment revolves around our primal nature. Second, I like naked men and want to see naked men. And if I can get by with it, I'm going to cop a feel of the goods, and squeeze a firm ass, pinch a nipple, etc. Like I said...revolves around our primal nature. BUT, and that's a big BUT! In exchange, I'm also going to tip well. They have something I want to enjoy so in order to help them continue providing that certain something, I'm going to continue tipping!
Photo Source: Piranha Nightclub ~ Las Vegas, NV
Now before you get the idea that I'm some desperate ol' troll, let me assure you, that is not the case. I have a partner that I love and have been with for almost 18 years at the time I'm writing this blog. We both have fun at male strip clubs and for us, it is a favorite form of entertainment.
Photo Source: The Manhattan Monster Bar ~ New York, NY
Once a month starting in March, I will be publishing a blog that will be called The Tip Jar. This blog will provide suggestions and ideas to male dancers on how to make more in tip money. We will be covering topics such as the best underwear to wear to encourage tipping; the roll fragrance can play in encouraging customers to tip; how costumes and props can result in more tips, and much more! I'll of course throw in hot pics and other information so customers and fans will want to follow along as well.
I want to pause here and say THANK YOU to everyone that is reading this, and to those who follow this blog on a regular basis. It is appreciated! Over the past almost 15 years we have created a community of like-minded individuals who enjoy the male dancers. I love hearing your stories and seeing the pics you post. Until next time, don't forget to tip the boys!