Photo Source: Michael Hill Digital
I'm not one to sit around and wait for someone else to start the party. I take the initiative to find a way to do what I want to do. As I've grown older, this characteristic of my personality has intensified. I grew up in a rural area of Arkansas. It was very scenic and outdoor activities were abundant. I enjoyed my favorite swimming hole, going four-wheeling, riding horses, riding motorcycles, and more. I learned from an early age that if I wanted to have fun, I would have to create the opportunities for myself. So, I planned things and then invited others to go with me. I am the same way today. And this holds true when I go to bars, clubs or events that feature exotic male dancers. I won't wait for someone else, instead I do five things so I can take the party with me.
Dancer: Alex Photo Source: Men Of Eden Photo by Ricky Mestre
TIP ONE: CHOOSE TO HAVE A GOOD TIME. Make a conscious choice to find a way to have fun. Guess what? It will happen every time. Life is too short not to enjoy what is around us, particularly when that involves sexy men in underwear or less.
TIP TWO: LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE. Anyone can find things to complain about. Anyone can choose to be negative and throw shade about a club, a dancer, another customer, a bartender, etc. Not all of my favorite experiences have been at shiny, sparkling high dollar clubs. Some of my most fun times have been at dive bars. I like both. And not every bar or club is going to have a stable of male dancers who look like gods and superheroes. (Well, unless it is Stockbar in Montreal or Swinging Richards in Atlanta, and a few others.) Each of us have a type of male dancer that we are attracted to and want to tip.
I always find at least one dancer that I can have fun with, even if that dancer isn't my preferred type. I've said it and many others have said "he wasn't the type of dancer that I usually go for, but I'm glad I made an exception." There was a dancer at a well-known male strip club that was working the room while I was there. He wasn't the first dancer that caught my eye. But he chose to give me a shoulder rub while talking to me. I tipped him to keep him going, and the entire time he was rubbing my shoulders, I forgot all about the other dancers. After a long road trip, I was very appreciative!
Photo Source: Revolver Video Bar ~ West Hollywood, CA
TIP THREE: BRING FRIENDS OR MAKE FRIENDS. When I first started Males In Motion, I was traveling a lot for the company I worked for at that time. This meant that when I visited male strip clubs during my hours away from work, I usually went alone. I didn't travel with work colleagues very often, and when I did, most of them would rather be at the local titty bar. So, I went alone and made friends. Even making one friend will work. If they are at a male strip club, you've already got something in common.
Sharing the experience with someone else always adds to your enjoyment. I recommend that you laugh a lot and tip a lot! If you are uncomfortable speaking with a stranger at a bar or club, make online friends in the area where you will be traveling. Meet them at the bar or club while in the area. If they are a local, they might be able to provide some great insights on the best places to go, or their favorite dancers and bartenders. And if there are no customers that you feel comfortable getting to know, spend time talking with the dancers and bartenders. Of course, remember to tip as well.
TIP FOUR: TIP THE DANCING BOYS. Watching the dancers on a stage, a box, a bar, etc., is fun but the real experience comes in the exchange while tipping. Sliding those dollar bills into waistbands is half the fun! Take a trip to the VIP Lounge and indulge yourself in a private lap dance. Live a story you can tell the next day! I have some great stories that I've told in past blogs about private lap dances at Boxer 'N Briefs (St. Louis), Swinging Richards (Atlanta), Dick's Cabaret (Phoenix), Stockbar (Montreal), Le Campus (Montreal), and X-Room at Mardi Gras (Springfield, MA). I've had a lot of fun at The Corner Pocket in New Orleans while sitting at the bar. And I've enjoyed the Ohio boys at O'Connors Club 20 in Columbus.
TIP FIVE: GET UP AND GO OUT. Of course, none of the four tips above will matter at all if you never leave your home. Get up, go out, and have fun! If you are a fan of exotic male dancers, become a regular customer of your local bar or club that features male dancers. This past year we have seen several clubs close their doors because of a drop in customer support. Become a regular and let the management know what you like. Being a regular turns the bar or club into a special place for you. You'll get to know the dancers and staff and have a place you like to hang out!
Until next time, Support the bulge! Take the party with you and have a great time!